Most people, especially in the early stages of dating, don't carefully choose their partners or cherish their youth. This is largely because they have few options to pursue, and the men pursuing them aren't of high quality.
Most people, when they're happy, are even less likely to cherish their relationships; they just indulge their whims and squander their emotions.
Seek connections, cherish connections, and renew connections.
Renewing a bond is the hardest thing.
Seeking a connection is the easiest part; the challenge lies in choosing.
Cherishing connections is the hardest thing, yet it is also the most important.
May we begin a relationship by first honoring the Dharma. As we nurture this bond, we must cherish our connection, uphold the Dharma, and avoid repeating past mistakes to prevent similar negative outcomes. This is the path to restoring our relationship.
For a relationship to be fulfilling, sixty percent depends on finding a good match, thirty-five percent on cherishing the bond, and only the remaining half on rekindling past connections. Yet people often become fixated on that least significant half, giving rise to suffering.
The comings and goings of all beings—those who rejoice in seeing perfect marriages—all depend on finding the right partner from the start. Cultivating love requires dedication; the hardest choice is when loneliness takes control, leaving one powerless to resist.
