"Friend zone" means: "I only see you as a friend, not as someone I could date."
You go on dates together, eat together, hang out together—you feel like she has a good impression of you, so you steel yourself and muster the courage to confess... only to get the friend zone card every single time.
Take this "Doormat" Self-Assessment Test—how many did you check?
I don't mind being teased.
Not bothered by being excluded by others
Dare not express one's true opinions
insecure
Life is monotonous and stable.
Not very socially adept
No one respects your opinion.
No one wants to hear your advice.
Always bringing up the rear in a group
Do whatever others say
Afraid of challenges, conflicts, and dangers
I've never dared to offend anyone.
Unwilling to take the initiative directly
Easily intimidated by assertive people
"Walking around with 'friend status' hanging over you"
Don't want to give without getting anything in return? Stop being a pushover starting now!
Doormat! Stop being so stubborn, or you'll just end up being someone's tool for life.
It's time to tear up your good-guy card and snatch her away.
First Move: Respect Yourself, Stop Letting People Joke Around at Will
Think it's no big deal when people joke around with you? As long as everyone's having fun, anything goes? No wonder you keep getting the friend zone card.
Your tendency to be a pushover makes girls feel embarrassed. Friends might say you're easygoing and have a big heart.
But as a man, your self-respect is constantly trampled underfoot. If you don't fear gossip, women will see you as weak, irresponsible, and unable to face or resist challenges.
Who can stand always taking it lying down? Is it really so great to be constantly pushed around and bullied?
Unless you're into masochism, please respect yourself. I'm not saying you have to be cold, cruel, or ignore people, but at the very least, maintain your basic self-respect.
Pain demands a cry, wounds deserve tears, and grievances must be voiced aloud. Don't fear offending others— as long as your words are reasonable, others will learn to respect you.
Move Two: Stand Up and Be the Reliable Go-To Person
You can be a pushover, but please be a good man.
If a man cannot defend the woman he loves, if he insists on resolving every situation with polite words and peaceful methods, if he lacks conviction and dares not challenge anyone's views, if he prefers to lurk in the shadows or merely hopes others will solve his problems—then complaining about the world's unfairness will do you no good.
What a woman wants is to be with someone as strong as a rock—someone who doesn't need to be popular or flashy, but at the very least isn't a coward who runs away at the first sign of danger.
Third Move: No More Boredom—Don't Be Afraid to Play the Bad Boy
If you want to be more than just a good man in women's eyes, but also top her list of potential boyfriends , then start cultivating humor now. Don't be afraid to play a little mischief—make her laugh, pay attention to what she says and does, and tease her with any little quirk you find adorable.
Become a better version of yourself and refuse to be labeled as a doormat.
The ideal man in a woman's eyes is someone with broad shoulders—gentle and generous, yet steady and confident. If you always come across as someone who's just okay at everything, you're destined to be forgotten by them and replaced by other men.
Have a little confidence in yourself. Even if you're a doormat, it's not all a bad thing. Doormats are more sensitive, more socially adept, and more caring than others. You make a great friend and confidant, but becoming a boyfriend is something you still need to learn.
You need:
Learn to stand up for yourself—stop being a pushover who always says yes to everything.
Learn to think for yourself; don't just agree with everything others say.
Learn to say no; unreasonable demands should not be compromised.
Learn to speak up—don't let anyone take you for granted anymore.
Learn to take responsibility, learn to be accountable for your actions, and let others learn to value you.
Learn to acknowledge your own insecurities and weaknesses.
This isn't hard—just remember these three key moves to make the woman you like remember you better. Let her know you're not just a pushover, but a good man!
