No matter what stage of the breakup you're in, this golden rule of not initiating contact applies.
Every relationship that ends has its own issues, and these issues persist. Completely cutting off contact and probing for information about the other person is meant to help you detach from this role and this space, so you can examine yourself.
Of course not. If you don't take the initiative to leave the relationship, there's a chance you might get back together with your ex—or maybe not. But if you don't stick to your decision, it's absolutely impossible.
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How long should I wait before reaching out?
Actually, I recommend at least one to two months. Even though every day feels painful and frustrating, this is just a transitional phase.
Do not initiate contact, including not taking the initiative to accept any messages from the other party.
FB
IG
LINE
Third-party friend,
The other party reached out to you
In short, you must not obtain any information about the other party.
It also includes indirect connections.
Many people connect through mutual friends, or via LINE status updates, Facebook posts, Instagram, or by asking mutual friends.
Better to create more clones.
The other party sees it, knows it, and is usually quite displeased regardless of the circumstances.
Then arguments, resentments, stress, and all sorts of negative emotions surface.
Lao Fo Ye cannot be exhausted.
So if you don't do it, it means nothing much will happen; but if you do, you're bound to run into a whole bunch of problems.
Not initiating contact is the only rule.
Many people say not to reach out first, but ask them why? They can't give a proper reason. Why should we follow the seven golden rules?
First: An empty space, for your quiet reflection.
This is a place that belongs to you, not by his side, nor is it a place that belongs to you. You need a space to feel the changes within yourself and to understand the situation.
Second: Objectively examine everything.
After a breakup, you only want to hear things that make you feel better about yourself. But after some time has passed, or when you start seeing someone new, you realize you were blind as a bat back then.
If you've dated multiple partners, think back to your previous relationships—were they all like this?
Give yourself some distance from your confused self and your true inner self. This way, you can observe how deeply your confused self is entangled.
Third: The Process of Overcoming Grief
Among friends, there are only degrees of difference. Those above you look down on you, while those below you are looked down upon by you.
Just as in a romantic relationship, whether two people can grow together depends on whether one can keep pace with the other.
After a breakup, you must embark on a journey to overcome him and challenge yourself. Only by letting go of your feelings for him will you know whether you should revisit those emotions.
Fourth: Expand your social circle
Take a look at the friends you've neglected or the invitations you've turned down. Get out and explore more often—you'll discover there's an even faster version of yourself waiting to be unleashed.
Fifth; avoid hurting each other.
If one party acts irrationally, it can easily cause significant problems for friends and colleagues around them. This is also to prevent you from staying in a house that's on fire.
Get out first, catch your breath, then talk.
Sixth: Devotees who offer support for our path to happiness
The influence of magical power, much like sprouting beans, requires time to grow.
Seventh: Enhance Your Attractiveness
When they first came together, it was because they were drawn to each other. Yet in the process of loving, they lost themselves. Because they loved each other too much, they resorted to misguided ways of nurturing their relationship, ultimately eroding their love through mutual torment.
When you master the Lao Fo Ye golden rules of emptiness Lao Fo Ye, you will find a new path.
The biggest misunderstanding when not reaching out to someone:
After a breakup, can you work with a relationship counselor?
For example, let's say you have a friend who sells insurance. You used to get along well with him, but he keeps trying to sell you policies through various means. At first, you politely declined, then firmly refused, yet he still persists in his sales tactics—using persuasive, emotionally charged language to recruit you and push his products.
I'm sure you'll end up hating him so much that you'll stop replying to his messages, eventually blocking him altogether.
After a breakup, it's the same situation—it's not about what methods or what words you use, but rather what stage your relationship was at.
If you're pursuing someone, the honeymoon phase, the dating phase, and the tactics and techniques used only matter during what we call the "favorable conditions period"—the stage of creating positive karma. This is also the best phase Attracting True Love.
After a breakup, the damage is already done. When the other person sees your messages, it's like a stranger on the street running up to you, offering to wipe your ass—utterly disgusting.
If you have the budget to enhance decryption, it would actually be more useful.
Practical observations on most people's execution capabilities
Many people still ignore our advice not to engage with the other party, stubbornly going their own way, only to come up with a bunch of excuses in the end.
"I really want to understand the other person."
I really want to know about him.
For us, the profound realization is this: when we let our emotions run wild and hurt our exes, if someone can't control their feelings, tell me—if your ex feels the immense pressure you're under and doesn't run away, they'd be a fool!
Finally, you may want to explore methods that utilize external assistance to facilitate reconciliation.
