Many couples argue and say things like: "If you won't give in to me, does that mean you don't love me anymore?" or "I love you so much, why won't you ever give in to me?"
This emotional blackmail becomes unbearable. The other person might tolerate it once or twice, but over time and with repeated instances, they'll eventually reach their limit and have no choice but to end the relationship.
Chronic poison destroys your love
The "reliance mindset" is the deadliest poison in love!
Excessive dependence, a lack of self-assurance, and constant clinging to the other person—even resorting to crying, tantrums, and threats of suicide—can easily wear down anyone's patience!
Entrusting the responsibility or right to take care of oneself to one's partner, allowing them to shoulder what was originally one's own duty, will inevitably lead to a breakup in the end.
One's happiness should not depend on another person to provide it!
Each of us possesses the ability to care for ourselves, and we all have our own set of worries. Therefore, only by taking care of ourselves first can we have the capacity to care for others.
If someone is already overwhelmed by their own life and still has to find the energy to care for another person, don't you think they're exhausted?
In the early stages of passionate love, perhaps both of you are full of energy. He can meticulously handle all your daily chores, while you live in comfort, having everything done for you. He always appears when you need him most, offering companionship and comfort. Your sweetness knows no bounds.
But after the honeymoon phase fades and time goes on, one person grows increasingly dependent on the other, leaving the other feeling increasingly overwhelmed. It's not that the love has faded, it's just that they've grown weary.
And once it starkly contrasts with the honeymoon phase, you'll start acting out, saying: "You don't love me anymore!"
This will only make him more exhausted and give him more headaches. Your love is being eroded bit by bit like this.
Therefore, as mature and independent individuals, we are fully capable of taking care of ourselves.
Why would those two mature individuals be together?
Two people being together isn't about wearing each other down, nor to become a burden to each other.
Two people being together is to help each other become better people.
