In love, all beautiful illusions seem to shatter in marriage. For shouldering a family is far more difficult than bearing the weight of a relationship.
Today, Lao Fo Ye like to share with all devotees a true story from one of our members. We hope everyone can learn from her experience how to nurture a marriage.
She and her husband are coworkers at the same company.
Whenever they argue while dating, it's always the guy who takes the initiative to back down and make up with her; and if the girl makes a mistake, she'll also proactively apologize to the guy.
To their friends, they were the picture-perfect couple—until they walked down the aisle. Their love remained unchanged,
What changed was their lifestyle. Living together meant not only working but also doing household chores—and even preparing for pregnancy!
However, the trigger for the marital breakdown was this: after getting promoted, the man frequently came home late. Due to his busy schedule and lack of communication, even minor issues would spark arguments between them, leading to cold wars.
During Lao Fo Ye with Lao Fo Ye, this devotee was emotionally unstable and said painfully:
I can't stand him anymore! I want a divorce! Because I'm not happy at all right now. I love him, but I have no confidence in living with him—he doesn't care about me at all! No matter what I say, he doesn't care! All he does is work every day. Whenever I get angry, he just buys me little gifts to apologize. But I don't need these things at all! What I want is someone to lean on when I'm vulnerable, someone to be there with me! "
They argued repeatedly, but each time failed to resolve the issue.
Marriage suffocates in silence.
Teacher Chen ( Lao Fo Ye ) believes: Marriage is the fruit of love.
From this perspective, marriage should be as sweet as love itself. Yet many married couples lose the tender affection they once shared, instead spending their days immersed in the mundane routines of daily life.
Many people in marriage often believe they give more, and hope to receive more love in return, yet they forget the true meaning of giving in love. Marriage requires constant communication. As long as you treat each other with sincerity and mutual understanding, nothing is insurmountable.
No matter how many daily chores pile up, we must still care deeply for each other, Be present in each other's lives, and be a couple who truly connect. only then can happiness endure.
Communication is a vital lesson in both romance and marriage. Only through communication can you truly understand whether the person beside you has changed, what they currently enjoy, and what they value. Being willing to communicate also signifies your willingness to enter their heart, allowing them to let down their guard and grow closer to you.
In your communication, you must identify the issues that have arisen in your marriage recently and how to improve them, rather than one person forcing themselves to endure or suppress their feelings, ultimately letting the marriage die in silence.
The female devotee in the story was fortunate enough to seek Lao Fo YeLao Fo YeLao Fo Ye promptly. At a point when her marriage was on the brink of collapse, Lao Fo Ye guidance and counsel, she rebuilt a bridge of communication with her husband. Together, they discussed how to address the issues needing change in their marriage. Ultimately, they saved their marriage and even rekindled the sweetness they felt when they first started dating.
